Lori Calabrese, MD

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Learning Emotional Regulation Skills Can Prevent Relapse
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“Cassie..?”

“Yes, Mom?”

“Sam called … says he can’t come over because he has to go to the mall with his mom …”

“WHAAAAATT??? That CREEP!!”

The freshly opened Coke can in Cassie’s hand flew at the door like a bullet and exploded into a hole just above the door facing … carbonation spewing everywhere.

“Cassie…. it was his mother’s decision…” But before her mom got the words out, Cassie had crashed through the front door and was gone.

Ever reacted to disappointment the way Cassie did? Know anyone who has?

Adapting or Stressing Out?

There’s a whole cascade of adaptations or maladaptations that occur in a moment of disappointment or frustration … or hurt. The things that go through your mind, the decisions you make in the split second after the moment and beyond, determine how an event will affect your life.

If you choose healthy ways to look at the event, and to respond, your mood will reflect that you have the skills to adapt, and roll with the punches. Learning emotional regulation skills can make the difference.

When you choose maladaptive thoughts that are self-destructive and create more conflict, you lay another brick in the foundation within yourself for an eventual diagnosis of depression.

In many psychiatric disorders, impaired emotional regulation (or emotional dysregulation) is a common characteristic. For most of us, it’s not that hard to see that some people with certain disorders — like, say, bipolar disorder — may have a hard time regulating and controlling their emotions.

There are other disorders where this may happen, too. Like PTSD, panic disorder, and depression.

A child affected by a disorder like depression or bipolar disorder often has difficulty developing his emotion-managing skills. Add to that certain conditions that also interfere, like alexithymia, for instance … and it’s all that much harder.

Emotion Regulation and Alexithymia

Alexithymia is a term coined in 1972 by Peter Sifneos, introducing to psychiatry the condition of a person who can’t identify or describe their emotions. Since emotion is felt physically … if you can’t feel it… it must be awfully hard to articulate.

In your case, maybe you don’t feel emotions or find it hard to put them in words … or maybe you do feel them.

If so, your condition can be just as difficult for you as it is for someone who experiences alexithymia, because both can put you in awkward, even embarrassing, situations.

Society Maintains Certain Expectations of Us All

Emotion self-regulation is the ability to respond to whatever is going on at the moment in a way that’s socially “tolerable” … but also flexible to fit the circumstances. For instance, so you can either react spontaneously or … if the situation requires it … delay your response til a more appropriate time and manner.

The ability to self-regulate your emotions is a complex stack of dominoes. A thousand different things stimulate in you a potential response or reaction…every single day.

If you don’t develop the ability to manage your reactions — in other words, if you don’t find out how to respond to a given situation in an appropriate way — your inappropriate reactions can isolate you from jobs, relationships, and fulfillment. People may see you as someone who doesn’t fit in.

The Behavior Police

Society imposes pressure on everyone to adapt to behaviors it considers in line with a civilized community. And people can be cruel as they police the boundaries to ensure everyone “behaves.”

If you’re able to develop an intuitive understanding of those boundaries as you grow through childhood, and if you can implement the “acceptable” behaviors in various situations, it will help you in every situation as you grow through adulthood.

However, as we mentioned before, some people are unable to do this adapting. And you may find yourself reacting forcefully and loudly in situations where you feel strong emotion.

Learning Emotional Regulation Skills Can Be Difficult

On the one hand, this difficulty regulating and adapting emotions to the situation is important, but what can you do if you just can’t? Furthermore, what happens if you never learn how…? Or never get better enough to learn…?

So here’s the thing.

It’s tough to learn how to redirect and adapt your responses to situations you’ve found upsetting in the past…especially when you’re in the heat of it. So treating the disorder and minimizing the pressure you feel to react is a solid first step.

It’s Easier to Learn Emotional Regulation Skills Without Symptoms

With medications that drastically reduce symptoms, you’re in a better position to actually use therapy that can help you develop skills to respond differently to circumstances that you’ve reacted to in the past.

Therapy that helps you learn to problem solve rather than erupt, and handle circumstances instead of brooding or avoiding those situations altogether can be far more effective if your emotions aren’t in overdrive.

Because, according to studies, when you can’t modulate your emotions, it does seem to set you up for relapse of your disorder. To stay healthy, you need to learn to think healthy. This underpins that infrastructure within you to sustain mental and emotional health.

Poor Emotional Regulation Leads to Relapse

Researchers in Norway published a meta-analysis of studies on emotional modulation in May of this year in Frontiers in Psychology. The report analyzed 72 studies involving 3371 participants with major depression or those in remission from depression, and 5094 healthy controls.

Huge numbers.

They studied the way the participants managed their emotions through difficult and stressful experiences.

Then, they found that when they compared the way the healthy people (who’d never been depressed) responded the way those with major depression and those in remission responded, the healthy people had constructive, self-loving ways of responding and those with depression had more self-destructive ways of responding.

These researchers also found that the more “maladaptive” a person’s response to difficulty or conflict, the more likely that person will become depressed.

Conversely, the more healthy and constructive a person is in adapting to stressful situations, the less likely he will be depressed.

So poor ability to respond to difficulty and conflict correlates to likelihood of depression. And learning emotional regulation skills can prevent depression relapse.

And there’s more…

3 Factors Influence Emotion Regulation in Depression Remission

They found there are factors that influence how well someone with depression in remission can regulate his or her emotions:
- Age when the illness began
- Anxiety disorder that accompanies the depression
- How long the disorder has been in remission
Clearly more study is needed. We need to understand healthy adaptive means of emotion regulation. And we need to learn how to help depressed patients even when their disorder is in remission. We want to help them develop healthier responses. And by doing that, prevent relapse.

How many times do people stop psychotherapy — or stop their meds — as soon as they feel better? How many times have you?

Also, they urged more study of alexithymia in patients with remission so that they can understand how it impacts their ability to learn healthier responses.

How Ketamine Treatment Can Help

And keep in mind, if you’ve been treated for these disorders and you have not achieved remission, you may be a candidate for ketamine treatment. No other treatment has been as effective in as many treatment-resistant cases.

As we said before, it’s not easy to unlearn old habits and learn new ones in the way you think about and respond to painful or frustrating situations. If you’re in pain yourself, and the structures in your brain are broken and worn down from the stress of a mood disorder, this is especially true.

Remission can empower you to build a healthier inner thought life that sustains remission when you do achieve it.

At Innovative Psychiatry, we see people achieve remission through ketamine treatment every week. We’d love to work with you to help you build a healthier, more rewarding life.

Give yourself the chance to be well.

If you’ve suffered with a mood disorder and other medicines and treatments haven’t helped much or at all, call us at 860.648.9755. Let us help you achieve remission and a more meaningful life.

To the development of your best self,

Lori Calabrese, MD
August 6, 2018
True Recovery From Trauma and How to Find Restoration

Trauma: Don’t Beat Yourself Up – Allow Your Loved Ones to Lift You UP

Have you been through something traumatic …? Maybe you’re a combat veteran, a first responder, or a victim of severe domestic abuse. It might have been a car wreck, or the unexpected sudden loss of someone you love. Fixed beliefs you form about that traumatic experience can insulate you from working through the scars you feel. If you tell yourself you “shouldn’t” be reacting to the incident, it keeps sitting deep inside you…haunting…but not healing.

Truth be told, you were traumatized. By rape. Infidelity. Fire. Hurricane.

What matters is that it traumatized you.

No one but you knows what has shaken you to your core. And continues to keep you shaken. But no one needs to. This was your experience. And YOU need to heal.

People are individuals and don’t react the same to the same stimulus. One combat veteran finishes his tour and goes back home, gets a job, and proceeds to build his “after-combat life.”

It’s not that he’s not shaken. But his reaction to all that happened may not have shattered him like the next guy. People go through divorce. One ex-wife gets thoroughly angry and surges forward like a steam engine to overcome the heartbreak she feels about her husband’s infidelity. But another one may be so shattered, so disillusioned she can’t work, can’t function, and trembles or vomits when she sees her errant ex-husband or drives by their favorite restaurant.

Sometimes It’s Appropriate to Let Yourself Feel Loss

But then, there’s another reaction. This is you if you’re the abandoned spouse who’s so empathic toward others and their pain that when you’re in pain you just try to ignore your sorrow when you see others who seem to be suffering more.

Sadly, you validate the pain and sorrow of others, and dismiss your own. The result is that you can’t validate your own grief like you would for someone else to help them heal. Sound familiar…?

Hey, Loss is Traumatic: It’s Not a Competition

If a woman loses her husband in a car wreck, and watched him die, she has reason to be heartbroken and deeply shaken. The fact that another woman lost her infant child in a sweeping illness does not trump the widow’s pain.

Both woman have lost a treasured loved one through horrifying circumstances. Both women felt helpless. There is no measuring stick to compare the loss of a husband with loss of a child. Both losses are terrible, and life-altering. In both cases, the women hurt terribly. Both were traumatic.

And both women need support, kindness, a listening ear, and patience. Both may certainly need counseling at some point to help them restore their desire to live and go forward. They’re not in any sort of contest with each other.

In fact, they’re each faced with shock and grief. And people do have to find their way through these very difficult times of life. Often they come through such times as a natural process. Other times it requires treatment.

But either way, the loss is devastating. And each person who suffers terrible loss is justified to feel traumatized…to grieve. To be supported. And to recover.

Let’s look at another perspective.

When a Traumatized Person Who’s Evaluated For PTSD, Is Not Given that Diagnosis…

Does it mean he or she wasn’t traumatized…? Or that the shock or pain of it wasn’t that serious?

NO.

There are certain criteria required for a PTSD diagnosis. Every person is different and responds to painful or traumatic experiences individually. Your pain, loss, grief, and trauma are real and valid.

Don’t let a label or diagnosis invalidate what you’re going through.

Some people, after a deeply traumatic experience, are actually diagnosed with PTSD. Most aren’t. What’s more, there can be other diagnoses after you endure something like this. If it’s not PTSD, it may be depression, or it might be panic disorder, or substance abuse, or an eating disorder.

Or…it might be that you’re sorting through all the complicated effects of grief, shock, and pain that can accompany a traumatic event or experience. To achieve true recovery from trauma requires that you be honest with yourself, as well as patient.

Let’s set labels aside.

If you’re suffering, that’s all anyone needs to know. And your suffering is valid. As time goes by, after a few years, if you’re still suffering the same symptoms you suffered immediately after the event…or even during the event …. then it might be time to see a psychiatrist to find out how to help you move forward.

Because a life-altering event isn’t something you just get over. It’s a part of who you become…every major life event is. But if the way you feel about it is preventing you from living your life and productively contributing to your job or hobbies you enjoy, it may be that an intervention can help you get your life back.

True Recovery From Trauma

Mental and emotional health isn’t defined by a lack of difficulty or upheaval, but by the skills you learn as you live to cope and recover from those challenges and difficulties that happen.

Resilience … takes time to develop.

And…even if your ability to cope needs a little nudge or a leg-up, you’re still learning and building your life skills. And you’ll continue.

The Secret of the Phoenix

There will be fires and wars in life. Betrayals and shocks. But if your goal is to learn to rise from the ashes, you’ll likely gain strength and resilience through the processes you endure, and the storms you weather.

Even so, if you find that the results of trauma in your life have interfered dramatically in your ability to move forward — whether you have PTSD, general anxiety disorder, panic disorder, severe depression, bipolar disorder, substance use disorder, and especially if you have suicidal thoughts — call us.

At Innovative Psychiatry we specialize in helping people who haven’t gotten better with other treatments.

And the most powerful tool we’ve found among the novel, advanced treatments we offer is ketamine treatment. Sometimes in the process of grief, or in processing trauma, you can get sort of stuck, unable to progress forward into a healthier place. Ketamine treatment has proven over 50 years its safety with adults and children.

The extraordinary actions of ketamine treatment can rebuild the structures in your brain that stress and trauma break down. It’s like it restores your tool box so you can rebuild your life. And it can be a huge help in your true recovery from trauma.

Learn about how to choose the best ketamine clinic, or best psychiatrist who offers ketamine treatment, and be your own best advocate. You deserve to live well and enjoy a restored life.

To the restoration of your best self,

Lori Calabrese, MD

July 30, 2018
The Heartbreak of Suicide: You and Ketamine Can Help

The Heartbreak of Suicide – What Can We Do?

Each day last week,122 people in the United States took their lives by suicide. We want to talk about Kate Spade … and you. And how the heartbreak of suicide is stealing our loved ones. And what we can do to change that.

By now, most of us have read that Kate Spade died by suicide this past week. This is too important to ignore as if it’s just another news story. Yes, Kate Spade was an icon and many have cherished her distinctive purses, bags, and wallets.

But this isn’t about her products. This is about her.

And others who suffer like she did.

Quietly. In silence… and despair.

All sorts of reports have swept through the news without sensitivity to Kate Spade and her family. A note published publicly by her husband expressed his horror that a note allegedly by Kate to her daughter was published by sensationalistic news media without his consent.

Traditional Depression Treatment Fails Sometimes…Then What?

The bottom line is that when suffering from a psychiatric disorder ends in death by suicide, the public considers that death the business of mankind in general… regardless of the suffering of the family.

It turns out, Kate suffered from depression and anxiety for the last six years before her death. She was engaged in intense psychiatric care regularly. But she wasn’t getting better.

Her family and close friends wanted to help, tried to help, but she probably reached the point that just talking about her struggles wasn’t changing anything… maybe she laughed it off when her best friend expressed concern. Maybe she looked fine. Sounded fine.

Psychiatric Disorders Can Be Hard on Relationships

She and her husband lived in separate apartments the last 10 months, but near each other so their daughter could easily go back and forth between them. The three of them continued to share meals, and vacations.

Kate and her husband Andy had been together for 35 years and the love between them was strong… enduring. But Andy says now they just needed a break to work out their problems…divorce was never considered.

If you’ve known severe depression and anxiety, you know that the depression can be suffocating…the anxiety crippling. And for some, as the depression worsens, the anxiety becomes more intense.

The longer depression goes untreated, the more likely it seems that phobias, panic attacks, and other forms of anxiety can emerge that can leave you feeling unable to function in your life like you used to.

People like to speculate. They’ll tell you maybe it’s not depression. Maybe it’s bipolar disorder.

Kate’s husband has been adamant that she suffered from depression and anxiety for the last six years, and that she’d been in psychiatric treatment for the last five.

And that’s the tragedy.

When you know you’re suffering from a psychiatric disorder, and your doctor provides the best treatment he knows to offer, what if it doesn’t help?

What do you do?

The Heartbreak of Suicide

For decades, this has been the situation with up to 50% of patients suffering with depression. They take medications year in and year out. But they don’t work…or maybe they don’t work well enough. So they try to keep going through their routine until they just can’t anymore. At some point they occasionally mention death… or dying…or funerals…

And they try and try to buck up, keep enduring…until they just can’t anymore.

Their thoughts fill with the idea of relief that would follow the end of life. They resist as long as they can. Sometimes, they succumb.

And someone finds them, after it’s too late to help.

For all of our lifetime, when medications and therapy didn’t make a real difference for a suffering person, doctors have sometimes just said, “I’ve done all I know to do.” It sounds so horrible. Like that’s it. There’s nothing else.

Others suggest trying yet another and another new medication or therapy. When hope just keeps being deferred indefinitely…well, we get heartsick…and can give up.

There’s Hope That Rises Above Traditional Treatment

But here’s the tragedy for Kate Spade, and others like her.

We’ve never had ketamine treatment before the last several years. But we have it now. She suffered for 6 years without relief.

What about you? Untreated depression and anxiety can slowly erode your relationships, your confidence, and your hope.

Does your doctor know about the effectiveness of ketamine treatment, or how to provide it with the best, most effective methods…?

She had made a fortune with her Kate Spade brand in partnership with her husband over the years. So she didn’t miss her chance for effective treatment because of cost. She had the resources to pay for the best treatment.

We see people like her all the time here at Innovative Psychiatry. People at the top of their game who suffer from an array of psychiatric disorders … and need treatment so they can continue contributing to their world, engaging with their families, enjoying their lives.

We can wish Kate had known about ketamine treatment. We can wish her life had been restored, her relationships with family and friends strengthened because she had the energy to invest in and build them again. Because she no longer feared that openness would harm her brand.

But for Kate Spade, sadly it’s too late for that.

Still, stop and think.

So Many Suffer in Silence Until They Can’t Stand It Another Day

How many people across the US died by suicide last week…? 122 each day. One of them happened Friday, when beloved celebrity chef Anthony Bourdain also died this way. How many more…?

We have to ask how many of those deaths could have been prevented if everyone knew about ketamine’s effective treatment that takes the pain away?

How many people in our world still don’t know that treatment actually IS available that can give them their lives back…restore their joy, their motivation, their well-being? That can stop suicidal thinking. Quickly.

We can work together to share this reality with everyone we know so no one else has to die without hope.

We must work together to help people who suffer like Kate suffered find help. And hope. We must talk about psychiatric symptoms without shame. As freely as we talk about back pain, migraines, cancer.

If a friend talks about death…about dying…even off the cuff…even laughing about it…

What do you think?

Oh, weird… wonder why she’s talking about this right now…embarrassing…

I hope not.

But the stigma is right there. Along with shame.

What if I’m overreacting..?

Overreacting to a possible call for help is not life-threatening….but ignoring the situation just may be.

You can reach out. You can confide in your friend about something you’ve been through that was embarrassing. Lower the wall. You can ask if there’s anything you can do. You can share things you’ve read, like this blog for instance.

Brain and Behavior Institute published this statement by Dr. Jeffrey Borenstein on Friday:

“If you are concerned about a loved one, you should express your concern. Some people have the misconception that asking a person about suicide will increase the risk, but in reality asking does not increase the risk of suicide, but can save a life.”

And you can provide your friend with the Suicide Hotline and encourage her to call you or call this number if she ever feels serious about it:

If you or someone you know is in crisis, call the U.S. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255, text TALK to 741741 or visit SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources for additional resources.

Ketamine treatment can stop suicidal thinking in 4 hours or less. Tell your friends and loved ones.

Ketamine Treatment Ends Suicidal Thinking in 4 Hours or Less!

The heartbreak of suicide can be prevented.

It’s true that ketamine treatment isn’t for everyone…but it’s effective for most, and even some of those who seem to not respond at first have a delayed response…and are living their lives with joy several months later. Ketamine is so remarkable, it deserves a chance to show you what it can do.

And you deserve the chance to experience the rapid and robust action of ketamine in your brain, relieving your symptoms.

If you suffer from a psychiatric disorder, or if you know someone who does, read the articles linked to this one and inform yourself. It’s no longer necessary to suffer under the burden of a seemingly untreatable disorder.

At Innovative Psychiatry, we offer a variety of novel, advanced options to reach the source of your disorder and help you get better. We’re not interested in treatment that just takes the edge off…

When you’re in pain, you’re in pain. A little reduction in symptoms really doesn’t help that much. You need to feel good. You need to feel well.

Please call us. Let us help you get better.

May the husband and daughter of Kate Spade, as well as her family and friends, be comforted and find peace. Our hearts weep for you.

And if you find your thoughts filled with images of death and dying…call us. We can help lift this terrible burden from you to help you rebuild a happier, more fulfilling life.

To the healing and restoration of your best self,

Lori Calabrese, MD

June 11, 2018

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